Talking to a friend last week about a couple of my posts on the patronising and diminishing ways that disabled people get talked to. He put forward the position that it is their problem and we (disabled people) have a choice as to whether we let it impact on us or not. In responding, it made me think about where choice lies, what our choices are and whether we can always choose for others’ view of us not to impact on us. It has led me to remember plenty of times where for example, failure to listen to me or to take me seriously, not believe I know what I’m talking about or ignore me, has impacted upon me detrimentally. For When, in supermarkets, the assistant that is meant to be helping me with my shop doesn’t take me seriously enough to take notice of what I’m asking for, I will not have an easy shopping experience and will most likely get home with numerous wrong items in my bags. If I find myself in a work situation wher...