Too many apologies

Taking my daily walk around the cemetery after working at home this afternoon, I noticed myself apologising to at least three people who walked too close to me.

 

It probably comes from a long learned reaction against conveying the attitude that I have no responsibility for the space that I use or take up as a blind person, but nonetheless a general bad habit of mine that I must stop.

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